YOU Are Enough!

WELCOME!

This week’s post is intended to help YOU to cultivate a more appreciative, positive attitude toward yourself.

Maintaining a positive, self-supportive attitude can be difficult.

The ubiquitous, virtually inescapable channels of advertising constantly bombard us with things we must have and ways we must act if we are to fit in and be happy.

Add to this the convoluted and often confusing and contradictory social mores around giving and accepting positive feedback and it is truly a wonder that any of us have a strong, positive self-image.

The underlying message:  You are not enough.

Rubbish!

YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Some exercises follow.

I invite you to try the following exercise out with a close personal friend.

‘The Joy of Being Friends Game

Here’s how it works.

You and your friend take turns responding to the statement, “I like having you as friend because you ____________”.

You will each need a pad of paper and a pen or pencil to write down what is shared.

It is important to write down the shared responses because the second part of the ‘exercise’ involves journaling briefly about each statement/quality that was shared.

Naturally, you can choose to do this together and share your insights or complete the journaling at later time.

Please complete the journaling part of the exercise, especially if you struggle with accepting compliments.

It is doing the second part of the activity that you have the challenging task of really acknowledging yourself for who you are and what you bring to this particular relationship.

I refer to this particular task as “challenging” because we are generally discouraged from engaging in this type of positive self-acknowledgement.

After all we are supposed to be humble.

Rubbish!

Accept YOUR friend’s positive perspective(s) and comments regarding you and what you bring to the relationship.

Things I Do Just Because Journaling

We all do little things for friends, family, and colleagues just because we care for them.

When thanked for these thoughtful acts, we generally try to ‘play them down’ saying something like, “No big deal”, “Think nothing of it”, or ——-fill in you own response to the appreciation of others here——- .

Why do we do this?

My theory is that somewhere in life we learned that it is simply not OK to acknowledge and take credit for our contributions to the happiness, well being, and fulfillment of others.

Here’s a thought:

What we appreciate, appreciates.

My conclusion is that if we want to live in more positive, mutually supportive world, then it is a good idea to develop the habit of being fully present with the good that we do in the world.

What do YOU think?

What I admire and love about myself journaling

Alright, boys and girls, here’s where the rubber really meets the road.

The rationale for putting some real effort into this exercise:

  • If you are going to be able to really experience the deep and unconditional love from another human being, you must first truly love yourself for all that you are and bring.
  • If you want to be seen for who you really are, then you must first stop hiding from yourself!

This is why I encourage you to journal about what you admire and love about yourself daily for five minutes over a three week period of time.

Just write one positive, authentic statement about yourself each day; expound on it if you wish.

Here are some sample entries from my own journal:

  • “I admire that I don’t give up easily.”
  • “I admire and love myself for being able to forgive others who have injured me.”
  • “I admire myself because I work hard to support my family.”
  • “I admire and love my giving nature.”
  • “I admire and love myself because I can be counted on to do what I say I will do.”

You get the idea.

Why three weeks?

The simple answer is because it takes 21 to establish a new habit of thinking and/or behaving. 

My hope is that you will take the ‘proverbial bull by the horns’ and embrace this form of journaling so that your wonderful, positive qualities will appreciate and contribute to a better world for us all!

YOU ARE NOT ONLY ENOUGH, YOU ARE AWESOME!

See YOU next week!

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1 Comment »

Comment by stephen light
October 23, 2012 @ 6:02 am

Dear Ron

You are brilliant. I love how you have simplified something that has troubled people for an age. We do not acknowledge ourselves enough and then if we wanted to, didn’t know how to. Your steps are so simple. I often repeat statements like this to myself. Thank you again for simplicity in a world that is bent on complicating itself.

Love & Courage
Stephen


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