Spring, a Time for Renewal, Reflection, and Planning


Ah, spring.

Flowers blooming, birds singing, life is bursting forth everywhere with renewed vigor.

Love and renewal are in the air.

Mutually empowering, committed romantic partnerships require ‘maintenance’ to remain fresh, vibrant and mutually fulfilling.

Today’s post will provide some ‘tune up tips’ for your love life.

As a relationship coach who has been happily married for going on 11 years, I am often asked what steps my partner and I take to keep our love thriving.

What follows are four steps that anyone in a committed romantic partnership can take to nurture their love:

  • Acknowledge and Celebrate Your Love
  • Reflect and ‘Clean house’
  • Discuss the Future
  • Plan

Acknowledge and Celebrate Your Love

It is very important to acknowledge yourself and your partner for what you both bring to your precious relationship.

Life inevitably brings challenges, ‘set backs’, and unforeseen events.  There is no time like the present to begin cultivating the habit of acknowledging the efforts that you and your partner make to keep the proverbial relationship ball rolling.

I invite you to take a few moments now and jot down three things that you do regularly to keep your romantic partnership on track.

Got it.

Now, jot down three things that your partner routinely does to contribute to the health of your relationship.

I invite you to acknowledge your partner for their contribution to your relationship.

Further, I invite you to set the intention to acknowledge their efforts daily.


Because we all, myself included, just tend to take all of the positive things our partner does for granted – we even come to simply expect our partners to just step up to the plate and handle things.

As each day brings its challenges and joys; each day also provides another precious opportunity to let your partner know just how much you appreciate them and all they are and do.

I often just pick some flowers from our garden or surprise my gal with her favorite sweet treat.  No special occasion- just because I love her.

I also regularly give her a handwritten card, a small gift, or a nice meal out- or better yet- a nice home-cooked meal to help make my sincere appreciation for her more impactful and memorable.

Despite our busy lives we often make the time to celebrate our love and ever deepening connection by taking a drive in the foothills or over to the coast.

Time spent together this way, is for me, the ultimate ‘emotional savings account’.  We return from our little day trip refreshed, more deeply in love, and ready to face whatever challenges are around the corner.

Reflect and ‘Clean house’

Many people make the time every spring to clean out the garage, their closets, and other places where stuff just tends to accumulate.

The intention behind this activity is to get rid of stuff that is ‘weighing them down’.

Emotional baggage is much more restrictive than a garage full of unused stuff.

I invite you to take a moment now and check in with yourself about any unexpressed negative feelings (sometimes called “hold-backs”), disappointments, and resentment(s) you may be holding onto about your partner.

Is anything coming up for you?

If so, deal with it.

Your feelings are your responsibility.

If something from the past is ‘bugging you’, try and process it and let go of it.

It often best to just ‘spill the beans’ and enlist your partner’s support in processing your feelings.

The idea is to forgive, forget, and move on.

You know what to do.

Discuss the Future

Many of us dream of a more connected, fulfilling future.  Unfortunately, dreams don’t just come ‘true’.

The awesome future you aspire to requires collaboration and planning.

As my old business coach, Bill Silverman, used to say:

“Failing to plan is planning to fail”.

You can choose to just live your life and let the future take care of itself or you can take the proverbial bull by the horns and boldly plan for a future that you and you partner can fully embrace.

The choice is always yours to make.

I invite you to make an appointment with your partner to discuss your life:

One year from now, five years from now, 10 years from now…  You get the idea.

While the future ‘is promised to no one’, there is no time like the present to chart a collaboratively developed course you and your partner agree will be the most mutually empowering and fulfilling.

Do the work.

Get the results.

Begin building the life that you both truly want.

I invite you to start today.


I sincerely hope that you found this post inspiring and useful

I am here if you need me.

Your friend and staunch ally,

To Love and Courage!


Live, Connect, Love and Prosper’

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