Resistance is Futile


There is an old saying in coaching: ‘What we resist, persists’.

Put another way, the things about ourselves that we ‘fight against’ often have a way of becoming ‘deal breakers’, especially when it comes to romantic pursuits.

When it comes to the realm of the mind, the things we choose to give our attention to tend to grow and flourish, while the things that we ignore tend to fade into the background.

When we resist facing and dealing with a particular issue we are strengthening our tendency to avoid challenges that are almost always within our existing capacities to successfully resolve.

The more energy we put into resisting something, the stronger the tendency to avoid dealing with it becomes.

We are always training our minds.

We are constantly faced with choices that have the potential to help us evolve into the fully empowered human beings that we already are at our core.

The ten million dollar question:

Are you training your mind to adapt to and successfully resolve the challenges of life or training it to avoid dealing with circumstances you have decided are too difficult and beyond your capacity to resolve?

When it comes to your love life, what are you resisting?

Some questions for your consideration follow:

  • What have you been avoiding doing that if dealt with would move you forward toward love and fulfillment?
  • When it comes to relationships what types conversations have you tended to put off in the past?
  • What or who do you blame for your current circumstances in your love life?
  • How committed are to attracting a quality, loving man who truly loves and cherishes you for who you are?
  • What else do you need to ask yourself?

One final question:

If your love life is not where you would like it to be, what steps are you willing to take to move forward?

The bottom line:

We generally resist getting into action out of fear.

The longer we allow a pattern of resistance to persist, the more deeply entrenched the pattern becomes.

The more fear rules our lives.

If you have been reading this blog for some time and have not reached out to me or another professional for some support around your romantic pursuits, what is stopping you?

If you want different results you will need to get into uncomfortable, imperfect action and try out some new ways of thinking and behaving.

As my good friend and fellow coach, Stephen Michael Light, would say ‘Love and courage’!

You have the courage to love …. Dig deep and you will find it.

I leave you with the following Love attracting affirmation that I recommend saying to yourself, out loud if circumstances permit, every morning before you start your day and every evening before going off to dream land.

‘I am a courageous child of God.
I was created in Love.
I am worthy of Love.
I have the courage it takes to love myself as I AM.
I invite the Love of my Life into my heart and commit to living my life with love and courage’

To Love and Courage!

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  • Create a sense of clarity about the relationship you really want to have.
  • Find out the essential building blocks for having the relationship of your dreams.
  • Discover the number one thing stopping you from having the relationship you want and deserve.
  • Identify the most powerful actions that will move you toward the relationship of your dreams.
  • Complete our session with the excitement of knowing EXACTLY what to do next to attract a committed partner who truly loves you for who you are!

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