New Year, New Beginnings


Today is the day before New Years’ Eve here in America.

I wish you a joyous, prosperous, peaceful, deeply fulfilling New Year.

Today’s post is a must read for anyone who really wants to make a fresh start.

My intention is to speak to your soul, heart of hearts, highest most magnificent self, your vital essence.

Here in America, we have a long-standing tradition of making “New Year’s Resolutions”.  Unfortunately, for many folks, their ‘resolutions’ never get much traction.

Good intentions tend to give way to previously established patterns of thought, emotion, speech and action. Far too often, despite our best efforts, we fail to leverage our gifts and our lives remain the same.

As one of my NVC friends likes to say, “Bad habits eat good intentions for lunch’.

It doesn’t have to be this way!

YOU can make the choice to take a new direction.

Your past does not have to determine what is possible for you in the future.

All humans are naturally creative, resourceful, and whole.

All humans are highly adaptable and have virtually unlimited potential.

The voice of your highest most magnificent self, ‘the voice of your soul’, is always whispering in your consciousness- gently calling you to be true to yourself and fulfill your destiny.

All of this said, you simply can not solve your problems with the same thinking that created them to begin with.

In order to change your life, you must systematically begin to change your thinking.

If your ‘Doubting Thomas’ is piping up with countless reasons why you can’t really change your life and circumstances, thank him for his concern and ask him to take out the recycling and trash.

Today’s post provides a starting point.

Keys to Your success:

  • Take the time to do some self-study and reflection. Consider your life and what you really want and why.  I invite you to think of this activity as an investment.
  • Prioritize your goals and select one or two to realistic goals to focus on.
  • Create a realistic planfailing to plan is planning to fail.
  • Enlist support.

Tell a close friend, family member or colleague about your goals and plan.  Be bold and ask for their unconditional support.

You may want to ask them to be your ‘Accountability Partner’ and set up a weekly or bi-weekly ‘check in time’ to review your progress.

  • Be loving and patient with yourself. 

It has taken you as long as you have lived to become the person that you are today.

Be patient.

A long journey starts with the first step.

Self-development is a life-long process that involves many miss-steps.

Failing is always part of learning and growth.

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new”.  Albert Einstein

Make friends with ‘failure’.

  • Always celebrate your efforts.

It’s the striving that matters.

As long as you stay the course, you will achieve your goals.

Success, especially in matters of the heart, is largely about persistence.

  • Rinse and repeat

Each day provides new opportunities.

Train your thinking to see what is possible rather than what can’t be accomplished.

When challenged, our highest most magnificent self becomes curious. When life is seen through this perspective, we always find a path to fulfillment.

Conversely, when we feel ‘challenged’ our ‘conditioned self’ gets triggered and we tend to become defensive.

Our ‘conditioned self’ keeps us stuck in maladaptive patterns by making excuses, blaming others and circumstances for our unhappiness, and otherwise abdicating our precious power of personal choice.

Which ‘self’ do you want to be the ruler of your inner kingdom and, ultimately, your life?

Self-development is an inside job.  Only you can do the work of self-development.

Do the work. Get the results.

Still here?


Give yourself the gift of a day, or even half a day to just reflect on your life, happiness, and future.

Self-study and reflection is a time proven path to a more fulfilling life.

“Our own cognition is sufficient to answer the questions posed by our own nature.”  Rudolf Steiner

Only you can create a different life for yourself.

Some ideas to help you plan a productive day to yourself:

  • Block the day and time off on your calendar.
  • Plan to be alone in a place where you will not be disturbed.  If possible pick a place that you find inspiring.
  • You will need a pen, notebook, and may want to have your food and drink handled (pack a picnic lunch). Remember to drink plenty of water.
  • Tell your friends and colleagues that you will not be available for the time you have set aside for reflection and self-study.
  • Plan to reward yourself in some way for your efforts.

Some questions to get you started:

  1. Look forward several years…. you are attending a function where someone is giving a speech about YOU! What would you want them to say?
  2. If time and resources were not a concern, describe the things you long to do?
  3. Think about one or two people you know who really inspire you. What about them is inspiring?
  4. What’s missing in your life, the presence of which would make your life more fulfilling?
  5. Who are you being when the possibilities in life are limitless?
  6. What makes you ‘come alive’?
  7. What needs in the world are you moved to meet?
  8. When are you unable to laugh at yourself?
  9. When do you give your power away? To whom?
  10. What drives you crazy?
  11. What pain are you holding onto?
  12. What do you contribute that is unique?
  13. What special knowledge do you have?
  14. Take a few moments to get really still.  Now, ask yourself: What feels most important to me right now?

I would love to hear about what you gleaned form this post and especially how you spent your special day of reflection and self-study.

I invite you to share what you learned with our community.  I have found that such sharing has two benefits:

  1. Locks in your learning, often deepening your insights.
  2. Inspires others to do the work of self-development.

Best Wishes for a Wonderful New Year,

I am here if you need me.

Your friend and staunch ally,


Live, Connect, Love and Prosper

See you next year!

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