Lucky in Love


I would like to start today’s post by acknowledging YOU:

  • You are lovely.
  • You offer a lot to a committed, loving relationship.
  • You absolutely deserve to be cherished and adored.

 True, Lasting Love – words that ring true, that resonate with our deepest desires for emotional connection, intimacy, and our innate need to share and receive LOVE.

The topic of romantic love elicits many images: That first kiss, a romantic dinner, a loving couple embracing as the sun sets after a glorious day at the beach …

I am sorry to say that not one of these inviting images, as emotionally appealing as they are, will help you attract and stay in love.

What will help you attract true, lasting love is a deeper understanding of what committed romantic love means to you.

The following discussion is intended to stimulate your thinking as the path to our hearts begins in our heads.

“True love” has a different meaning for each and every one of us.

My hope is that this discussion will inspire you to form a deeper, more practical, more personal view of “true, lasting love.”

From my perspective, the foundation of true, lasting romantic love is strong, mutual and unconditional acceptance.

Put another way, true love is free from excessive critical judgment.

Folks really want and need to be accepted for who they are. 

When we completely accept another human being for who they really are it allows them to feel safe to share more of themselves.  This sort of “unconditional acceptance” supports the deep level of trust required for true emotional intimacy.

Think about it.

You want to be loved for who you are, not for who you are expected to be.

So, if you hold this expectation for how you would like to be treated by your next romantic partner shouldn’t you be willing to do the same for him?

Now loving some one for who they actually are can be challenging.

True lasting love requires:

  • Leaving people in freedom to be who they are
  • A deep level of self-acceptance
  • Commitment to yourself and your lover

Leaving others in freedom

Leaving others in freedom simply means supporting their efforts toward their own fulfillment.

This is easy when your partner’s intentions and actions are in alignment with your values and expectations.  It becomes more challenging when your partner’s intentions and actions somehow conflict with your values and expectations.

When it comes to long term, committed relationships, this is “where the rubber meets the road”.

Unconditional love requires unconditional self-acceptance

Now in order to “leave others in freedom” to be who they are we must first fully accept ourselves as we are.  This is because in many instances our negative judgments of others really stem from negative judgments about ourselves.

It has been said:

“Luck is when preparedness meets opportunity”.

When it comes to being “Lucky in Love” there is simply no substitute for being inwardly prepared to succeed.

Now the folks on Madison Avenue would tell you that you need the right look – your hair, makeup, nails, outfit, etc all have to be just right if you’re going to get your man.


Having the right attitude toward yourself and any potential partner is your real ticket to relationship bliss.

So, I encourage you to do the “inner preparation” necessary so you can get it right this time around.

Some ideas to support your efforts:

  • Journaling about what love means to you and about what you bring to and want out of your romantic pursuits
  • Create a vision board depicting your life with that special someone
  • Do some volunteer work to support a cause you believe in

(giving of our time and energy often inspires an attitude of compassion and opens our hearts to love)

See you next week

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Comment by JBL
December 14, 2011 @ 8:51 am

Your insights and encouragements regarding inner preparation are very much on target. As a therapist I have encouraged journaling and volunteering for various purposes and it was immediately clear to me the value of these actions in this context. I encourage you to keep up the valuable work you are doing in sharing information on real and fulfilling relationships.

Comment by Stephen Light
December 14, 2011 @ 10:37 pm

Hi Ron

Thank you for a very profound discussion. I have taken away with me that self-acceptance is my key to a deep loving relationship. I am committed to that.

Love & Courage

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