Life Balance and Romantic Partnership

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Today’s post addresses what has recently become a very ‘hot topic’ with a good number of my Clients: “Life Balance”.

So if you’re feeling overly stressed, just can’t seem to ‘catch up’, or would just like some ideas about how you can experience more of your life instead of just ‘being along for the ride’, this post provides an inspiring and effective starting point.

Life in the modern world has become increasingly complicated.

Everyone is striving to get their piece of the proverbial pie.

Things cost more than ever.

We seem to need and want more than ever.

Many folks seem to be stuck in what I have come to call “The Endless Upgrade Mentality”.

For many modern couples, the struggle to maintain their chosen life style has led to career and other choices that are simply no longer very fulfilling.

Perhaps what is needed is a ‘fresh start’ – a return to a more simple life.

A quote for your consideration:

“He who is not happy with nothing, will not be happy with everything; He who does not cherish the little things will not be thoughtful of the great things; He with whom sufficient is not enough is without virtue; for the physical body of man lives only from day to day; if you seek to supply it with what it actually needs, you will still have time meditate; where as if you seek to supply it with all that it wants, the task is without end.”

Attributed to Gautama Buddha

Please take a moment to reflect on this timeless saying.

If you found some resonance with one or more parts of the quote, I invite you to reflect on them further.

This will allow you to become present with your own truth about the balance between being and doing.

This is because we all intuitively know what we are really about.

Unfortunately, we just generally don’t make the time to still our minds and get in touch our inner world to discover our ‘truth’.

From one perspective, we are able to recognize ‘the truth’ as it applies to us because that truth already lives inside of us.

More food for your soul:

We are, after all, human beings, and not human doers.

My rather lame play on words aside, you get the idea.

Below is a coaching tool that provides a proven starting point for life re-assessment.

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Rating scale:

Rate how satisfied you are with each aspect of your life.

1,  at the center of each spoke of the wheel, represents ‘little or no satisfaction’ with this aspect of your life.

5,  at halfway point between the center and the outer edge of the wheel, represents ‘moderately satisfied’.

10, at the outer edge of the wheel, represents ‘completely satisfied’.

To use this tool all you need is a pen, some time, and the willingness to make an honest appraisal of your life and how you are choosing to spend your time and resources at this point in time.

The first step is to score your satisfaction for each section / topic of the wheel on a scale of one to ten.

For example, I would rate my “Significant Other / Romance” section a resounding “10 “.

I could ask for more but that would be pretty dumb!!!

I got to marry my best friend. And our relationship, despite many challenges, is thriving.

On the other hand I would have to rate the “Physical Environment” section as a “3” because the air quality where we currently live is hard on my health.

Yes, I am taking steps right now to change this!

After you have rated your overall satisfaction on all eight topics:

  1. Fun & Recreation
  2. Health
  3. Money
  4. Personal growth
  5. Career
  6. Physical environment
  7. Family & Friends
  8. Significant Other / Romance

You can “connect the spokes” and if you’re like most people, a not so round wheel will be the result.

This means that your life is not ‘rolling along’ as smoothly as could be.

Don’t worry… nobody I have ever met has a perfectly round wheel when they are done with this little exercise.

The good news!

You can begin taking steps to bring the aspects of your life that are not as satisfying as you would like more into alignment with what would really be fulfilling.

While the future is promised to no one, we can choose to live in ways that bring us, and those closest to us, more opportunities for deeper levels of fulfillment.

The choice is always ours to make.

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself.  Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”

Wayne Dyer

Don’t spend a moment ‘worrying’ about how out of balance this exercise makes your life appear.

Worry is simply using our imagination to create something that we don’t want!

Everyone starts where they are.

Welcome to the most important race of all- The Human Race.

Just get to work on yourself.

Need some support?

I am an email away!

ron@inspiredcommitment.com

I sincerely hope that you found this post inspiring and useful

I am here if you need me.

Your friend and staunch ally,

To Love and Courage!

Ron

Live, Connect, Love and Prosper’

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2 Comments »

Comment by stephen light
May 18, 2015 @ 3:05 am

Hey Ron

I love how you challenge us to put on paper how we see the areas of our lives.

My personal work is so closely aligned to this quote you gave us:
A quote for your consideration:

“He who is not happy with nothing, will not be happy with everything; He who does not cherish the little things will not be thoughtful of the great things; He with whom sufficient is not enough is without virtue; for the physical body of man lives only from day to day; if you seek to supply it with what it actually needs, you will still have time meditate; where as if you seek to supply it with all that it wants, the task is without end.”

I am actively letting go of what I believe it should be and embracing what it is in all areas of my life. Challenging and freeing.

Thanks for the insightful article

Love & Courage
Stephen Light


Comment by Ron
May 26, 2015 @ 2:55 pm

Hello Stephen.
Thanks for posting yet another insightful comment. Sounds like you are doing some very empowering self-development work. I too am striving to just be fully present with what “is”. We simply tend to ‘add to and take way from’ om our experiences. Perception is truly the doorway to the truth our existence. Having the clarity to see the world and our experiences without constantly evaluating them is a powerfully freeing discipline. To Love and courage! Your Friend, Ron


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