Life Balance and Love


Most people I talk with are overly stressed, far too busy, and regardless of their relationship status, are not making the time for adequate self-care.

Why is this relevant to single women seeking a committed, loving relationship?

If you want a man who cherishes and adores you, then I encourage you to cherish and adore yourself by cultivating habits that reflect good self-care.

The actionable steps offered in this post give some clear ideas about where to start.

I have come to realize, at a very deep level, that making my own well being a top priority clearly supports a healthy, mutually empowering relationship with my wife.

When I am over stressed and out of balance I tend to be:

  • More sensitive – sometimes to the point of being quite irritable,
  • Generally harder to get along with,
  • Unable to provide my wife with the loving support I want to share with her.

The best time to establish and fully integrate the personal habits that support good self-care is while you are single.

This is because when your new love enters your life, building your relationship will naturally tend to take a good part of your time and attention.

Habits that are not well established will tend to fall away.

This is why establishing good habits of self-care now will help you to maintain your health and, perhaps more importantly, your equanimity as you explore your new relationship opportunity.

I might also add that good self-care is also a corner stone of all mutually empowering relationships.

Four Important Areas to Focus on

  1. Establish and maintain physical fitness
  2. Set appropriate boundaries around work and/or school
  3. Make the time to spend with your friends and family
  4. Make sure that you get enough alone time

Establish and maintain physical fitness

In order to live a ‘full life’ we simply need to be reasonably physically fit.  Our bodies need regular, light exercise and gentle stretching to maintain our health and vitality.

I highly recommend the following:

  • Taking a 30 minute walk 3 to 4 times a week
  • Going for a 30 minute bicycle ride 3 or 4 times a week
  • Doing 30 minutes of Hatha Yoga, Tia Chi, or Chi Gong 3 to 4 times a week
  • Swimming for 20 to 30 minutes 3 to 4 times a week
  • Light weight lifting for 20 to 30 minutes 3 to 4 times a week
  • Joining a gym or fitness center and getting the support of a personal trainer

Naturally jogging, hiking, playing group sports, and so on are also great.

The point is to balance gentle stretching with light exercise in accordance with your health and physical condition.


If you are out of shape or haven’t regularly exercised in a while I advise having a conversation with your primary care physician about where to start.  Then enlist the support of a personal fitness trainer.

Finally, there is a plethora of research that links reasonable physical fitness to emotional balance and health.

Healthy body = healthy mind.

Set appropriate boundaries around work and/or school

Successful, career oriented singles of both sexes often have trouble setting reasonable boundaries around work, professional development, and/or school.

Once love comes to town your life can become a completely unmanageable blur if you have not learned when to say no to excessive work and/or school demands.

Remember:  saying “yes” to one thing means saying “no” to many other things and vice-versa.

Life balance requires staying in choice and making conscious decisions that actually reflect what is truly most important to you.

Success does not have to be at all cost.

What’s coming up for you?

Make time to spend with your friends and family

Positive time spent with your friends and family is mutually revitalizing.

We all need the positive energy that comes from our emotional connections with our close friends and family.

If you don’t make the time to spend with your close friends and family while you are single, it can be very difficult to do so once you become romantically involved with that special someone.

Make the commitment to stay connected with those people that are important to you.

If you haven’t seen your favorite aunt in 4 months, pick up the phone and call her!  You’ll be glad that you did.

We are always building our relationship house.

I recommend building your relationship house on the solid foundation of a close circle of friends and family.

Make sure that you get enough alone time

We all need some alone time.

When was the last time you spent a quiet day with yourself?

Time spent enjoying nature, reading a good book, preparing and savoring your favorite meal, and so on can be very revitalizing.

Slow down, enjoy the present, and take the time to appreciate yourself for all that you are and bring to the world.

I sincerely hope that you found this post inspiring and useful.

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See you next week.

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1 Comment »

Comment by stephen light
April 1, 2014 @ 12:17 pm

Hey Ron

For me its all about the alone time – something I never quite make time for.

Love & Courage

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