It’s the Striving that Matters!


Today’s post will introduce you to strategies and practices that will help you to build more sustainability into your romantic partnership.

Adopting the strategies and practices that I am going to share are guaranteed to ‘breathe new life’ into any relationship.

As a relationship coach who has been happily married for going on 11 years, I am often asked what steps my partner and I take to keep our love thriving.

Sustainable romantic partnerships just don’t some how magically manifest- we must create them!

One of the keys to any long-term relationship is learning to honor and celebrate your and your partner’s efforts- regardless of the outcome.

When it comes to matters of the heart, it truly is the striving that matters.


Humans are wired for growth.

For us to thrive our relationships must both support and challenge us.

When humans strive, we grow.  Growth is what keeps you and your precious romantic partnerships alive and fresh.

Why not commit to making a fresh start today?

You may even invite your partner to read this post, and together, you can select a strategy / practice to begin cultivating together.

‘A couple that grows together stays together.’

What follows are some very effective strategies and practices for developing mutually supportive and empowering patterns of communication.

Adopting these strategies and practices will help you to build more ‘sustainability’ into your romantic partnership.

I am literally giving YOU the proverbial keys to the kingdom of love and fulfillment.


  • Cultivate the habit of listening to your partner with all of your being.

    Become and stay curious.

    Learn to ask questions to understand rather than challenge.

  • Celebrate your efforts and accomplishments and encourage your partner to do the same.

    You might even consider developing the daily ritual of asking each other: “What do you want to celebrate today?”

  • Take the time to thank your partner for the little things they do.   Acknowledge.   Acknowledge.   Acknowledge.
  • Ask them how you can support them.
  • Ask for the support you need.

    Learn to enlist your partner’s cooperation by making requests, rather than demands.

  • Set and clearly express your intentions and avoid the ‘expectations trap’.

    Your partner cannot ‘read your mind’.

    Make clear, actionable requests and avoid unnecessary disappointment.

  • Schedule a weekly family ‘check in meeting’ where you can talk about feelings and needs and make requests.

    Strive to own your feelings and remember that ‘upsets’ are often the biggest opportunities for growth.

    “Healthy discontent is the prelude to progress.”
    M. K Gandhi

    Taking the ‘next step’ toward a more fulfilling life often involves letting go of ideas and strategies that no longer serve you.

    Be brave and allow the perfection in your soul to come forth.  Live into your highest most magnificent self and let your love light shine.

  • Plan a weekly ‘Play Date’.

    Dedicate one evening, or better yet, one day a week to just ‘be’ together.

    It can be around a project some of the time.

    That said, learn to just be together.

    Turn off your television and mobile devices and just talk with each other, enjoy nature together, make a meal together, take walk together, do yoga, Tia Chi or meditate together, you get the idea.

    I absolutely cherish and adore my wife, Julia, and have come to realize that just being together is one of the biggest blessings of my entire life.

  • Seek to cultivate equanimity.

    Cultivating the powerful and inspiring perspective of ‘curiosity’ is royal road to more empowered living.

  • Remember it is giving that we receive.
  • Forgive, forget, and move on.

I sincerely hope that you found this post inspiring and useful

I am here if you need me.

Your friend and staunch ally,

To Love and Courage!


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Comment by stephen light
April 28, 2015 @ 4:06 am

Hey Ron

Ending the Blame game is one of the most powerful things I cultivate in my life. Thank you for the reminder. Its so easy to slip into blame as it allows us to feel off the hook for a while. Not sustainable though.

Love & Courage

Comment by Ron
April 30, 2015 @ 6:03 am

Hello Stephen,
Thank you for so faithfully supporting our community with relevant, positive comments that contribute to everyone’s understanding and growth. The truth be known, I still sometimes fall into the ‘blame trap’. Even though I am generally very grateful for the precious gifts of life and consciousness, I sometimes still allow myself to get ‘triggered’ by circumstances and allow my lower self to run the show. Fortunately, through the grace of God I usually come back to real self fairly quickly. Quite often nature or noticing the struggles of a homeless person brings me right back to gratitude and the high road of personal responsibility, equanimity, and abiding joy – our true nature. Blessings on your work. Thanks for being you and for all you do to help raise us all up from struggle to flow. To Love and Courage, Your Brother in Service, Ron

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