Good Lies Die Hard, Part Two


Today’s post is the second in a series that examines some commonly held beliefs that, if not properly identified and managed, can greatly undermine your quest for love and fulfillment.

It is a must read for anyone seeking to establish and build a mutually empowering romantic partnership.

As I shared in last week’s post, the battle for love and fulfillment begins and ends in the realm of our minds.

I went on to point out that the beliefs that we consciously and unconsciously ‘buy into’ have a profound impact on:

  • The quality of our lives,
  • The quality of the lives of those closest to us,
  • The impact that we are able to make in the world.

One of the keys to achieving your relationship and other life goals is being willing to take a good hard look at what you believe and, especially, why.

What follows is a discussion that focuses on one commonly held system of beliefs that, if left unchallenged, can deeply undermine your pursuit of love and fulfillment.

The “I’ll meet the right person, we’ll fall madly in Love and Live Happily Ever After” Lie

This ‘lie’ is really many lies and culturally based relationship myths around love and fulfillment combined into one big disempowering story.

I’ll break it all down for you.

“If only I could meet the right person…”

I have been working as a love and relationship coach since April of 2010.

During that time I have had the privilege of talking with hundreds of singles seeking true love as well as many people who are already in committed romantic partnerships trying their best to make things work.

What I have discovered is that many people seeking love, put far too much emphases on meeting the ‘right person’ while putting very little effort into their own self-development.

While ‘choosing wisely’ is a big part of the formula for establishing and building a loving, committed romantic partnership that will stand the test to time, I posit that equal effort needs to be put into the work self-development.

As I pointed out in the first post in this series, “the ‘work of self-development’ is necessary because conscious, mutually empowering relationships require a high level of self-awareness, and, if I may be so bold, at least an equal level of self-discipline.”

True love can unfold, take root and blossom only when the inner work of self-development bears its fruit and preparedness meets blessed opportunity.

By focusing on developing the virtuous qualities that you desire in a partner, you will develop the self-awareness, and the capacities that support ‘emotionally connected relationships’ like the following:

  • Empathy & Compassion
  • Tolerance
  • Patience
  • Gratitude
  • Forgiveness
  • Self-understanding
  • Self-appreciation and self love

And so on.

Two questions come to mind:

  1. Are you putting too much stock in meeting Mr. / Ms. ‘Right’?
  2. How much time, energy, and effort do you currently put into your own self-development? 

True, lasting love will not just some how magically find you, you must inwardly prepare for it.

“We’ll fall madly in love and live happily ever after… lie”

Not so fast ‘Buck Rogers’.

Unfortunately, ‘passion’ is never enough to build a lasting, mutually empowering, mutually fulfilling romantic partnership.


No couple that I have ever become acquainted with simply met, fell in love and lived ‘happily ever after’.

When it comes to true, lasting love I have found two things to be true:

  1. True lasting love is possible.
  2. True lasting love takes a lot of hard work on the part of both partners that, in turn, depends on both partners doing the inner work of self-development to keep things on track

Conscious, mutually empowering romantic partnerships just don’t happen.

We must create them!

Do the work.

Get the results!

As many of you know, I got to marry my best friend.

Although we have faced many challenges we are building a loving supportive partnership that literally deepens every day.

We are doing so through a deep mutual commitment to our own personal growth and a deep and ever growing commitment to each other.

Now, we are just two ordinary people.

If we can build a mutually empowering, deeply satisfying partnership then just about anyone who is willing to do the ‘inner work of love’ can do the same.

I invite you to begin ‘the inner work of love’.

Do the work; get the results.

Give yourself the opportunity to make love truly blossom in your life.

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I sincerely hope that you found this post inspiring and useful.

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See you next week.

Live, connect, love and prosper

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Comment by Bill
November 18, 2014 @ 8:49 am

Yes I agree Ron—until I uncover the beliefs that I believe in
transformation doesn’t happen and that requires my own inner commitment.
Slowly and surely I am awaking to this—Rainbows—Bill

Comment by stephen light
November 19, 2014 @ 2:57 am

It always starts with self

Thanks Ron

Love & Courage
Stephen Light

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