From Struggle to Flow, Part Two

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Personal empowerment is the rock on which strong, sustainable, deeply satisfying romantic partnerships are built.

Last month I began a discussion of the 10 principles that have helped me and many of my Clients to move from struggle to flow: from just making it day-to-day to really thriving.

In this month’s newsletter I will continue that discussion.

I will share additional 5 principles that will help you to realize more of the vast potential in your soul.

Here we go!

Fasten your seat beats as we take the starship of personal empowerment for a short spin around the vast inner universe of soul space.

 

Principles to thrive by

  • Fully embrace your passions and infuse your learning with joy
  • Use your powerful imaginative capacities to create a powerful living vision of the life you truly want AND commit to never setting for less
  • Your True Nature is to grow, develop and Thrive
  • Associate with people who are positive, accepting, and uplifting
  • Get a personal mentor who already is where you want to be

I will now briefly elaborate on each principle.

Fully embrace your passions and infuse your learning with joy

Life is a precious gift.

Each day provides never to be repeated opportunities.

Do what you love and love what you do.

I invite you to explore and fully embrace your passions.

Infuse your learning with joy.

Joy and full access to our deepest resources and most powerful adaptive capacities go hand in hand.

This is partly because joy blows open the doorway of inspiration.

This brings me to my next principle.

Use your powerful imaginative capacities to create a living vision of the life you truly want AND commit to never setting for less

Albert Einstein said it succinctly, “ Imagination is more important than knowledge.”

Make the time to let your imagination run wild.

Some questions will help to get your explorative, creative juices flowing.

I invite you to embrace these questions from the perspective that anything is possible.

Leave nothing off of the table.

The idea is to stretch your capacities to freely imagine, much like you did as a young child- to free your thinking from self-imposed structures, requirements, family expectations and so on.

Asking questions and questioning answers is one of the most powerful tools of self-development.

“Our own cognition is sufficient to answer the questions posed by our own nature.”  Rudolf Steiner

I invite you to take some time with this and encourage you to journal about the questions posed.

Use a pen and paper.  Writing is a powerful tool for self-exploration.  This is because writing connects your heart (inspiration) head (thinking) and hand (speech & actions).

1. Imagine your committed romantic partnership one year from now?

  • Where would you like to be?
  • How would it change?
  • How would you be different?
  • How would your social life be different?
  • How would your intimate time together be different?
  • If you have children, how would you be involved with them?
  • Anything else?

2. Imagine the ‘perfect day’ with your partner?

  • How would you start your day?
  • What activities would you share together?
  • How would you spend the evening together?
  • If you have children, would you include them?
  • If so, how and why?
  • Anything else?

3. Fast-forward 5 years.

  • How would you imagine your relationship with your partner at this point in your lives?
  • What activities would you share?
  • What activities would you do alone or with friends?
  • What would your intimate life look like?
  • What would your social life look like?
  • If you have children, how would you be involved with them?
  • Anything else?

4. Fast-forward 10 years.

  • How would you imagine your relationship with your partner at this point in your lives?
  • What activities would you share?
  • What activities would you do alone or with friends?
  • What would your intimate life look like?
  • What would your social life look like?
  • Anything else?

5. Imagine your perfect retirement together.

  • Where would you live?
  • What activities would you share?
  • Would you and your partner travel or be home- bodies?
  • What things would you do alone or with friends?
  • What would your intimate life look like?
  • What would your social life look like?
  • Anything else?

Your True Nature is to grow, develop and Thrive

You are the King / Queen of your inner kingdom and the ruler of your life.  Only you can fully claim this authority.  I invite you to do so now.

Try this affirmation on:

“I am the ruler of my kingdom, I take full responsibility for every aspect of my life.  I choose to walk the path of personal empowerment and support my fellow man to do the same.”

Nice.

If you truly want to thrive give up the idea of having an ‘ordinary life’.

Carpe diem- seize the day! 

Again I have provided some questions for your consideration:

  1. What are you ‘tolerating’ and why?
  2. Name three talents or special gifts that you have and how you would like to use them to improve your life and the lives of others?
  3. What have you held back from your partner that you really need to share with them?
  4. How would you like to be remembered and why?
  5. If you have children, what is most important for their grown and fulfillment right now?
  6. Who won the world cup in 1996? (Sorry, this question was entered in error, those responsible have been assigned to figure out the Windows 10 operating system and explain it to me!).

Associate with people who are positive, accepting and uplifting

The people with whom you associate both impact and reflect how you show up in the world.

They can also significantly impact the quality of life of your children, especially younger ones, who learn primarily through imitation.

Managing the external influence of the people in your life is therefore essential for empowered living, sustainable romantic partnerships, and the quality of life of your children.

The people you choose as close personal friends have a profound impact on your personal development, growth, and your romantic partnership.

If you are attempting to build a deeply satisfying, mutually empowering romantic partnership then your close friends simply must respect your partner and fully support your relationship.

Is it time to prune your ‘relationship tree’?

Put another way, if you have a friend or two that undermine your relationship with your partner and / or may have a negative influence on your children – due to their lifestyle choices, values, and so on, perhaps it is time to gracefully let them go.

I highly recommend associating with people who are also involved in the work of self-development while spending very little time with friends who choose to live ‘less empowered’ lives.

Close person friends either:

  • Challenge you in positive ways and therefore have an uplifting influence,or
  • Drag you down to their level.

The choice is always yours to make.

It is simply a matter of self-respect.

Two of the best examples of the latter are ‘party buddies’, and men or women who undervalue their partners, or worse yet, violate their trust through excessive flirtation with people other than their partner.

With regard to ‘party buddies’, I am certainly no prude.

I enjoy a cold beer or two, a good glass of wine with a meal, and love to go out dancing but I never forget my loving wife in the process.

She is the treasure of my heart and truly loves me for who I AM.

For my part, I choose not to associate with old friends who reduce women to ‘objects of desire’ and avoid women who do not respect my personal boundaries.

Finally, I try to associate with people who are further along on the path to self-actualization.

No judgment.

Just appropriate discernment.

Life is short and I want to make the most of my time on this wonderful planet.

This brings me to the 10th principle to thrive by.

Get a personal mentor who already is where you want to be

If you want to explore the uncharted territory of the deeper realms of your soul, both for your own personal growth and in support of your precious romantic partnership, I have found it best to have a guide who knows the way.

The truth be known, I really didn’t get the value of having a personal mentor until later in life.

Although I deeply valued the presence and limited advice of my spiritual teacher, I regret not asking for more of his personal mentoring before he left us for the spiritual world.

I have had a business coach for some time.

Unfortunately, I felt I had to let my personal coach go for ‘financial reasons’.

A BIG MISTAKE!!!

To fill this ‘gap’ in my life, I recently joined a mentoring program that focuses on personal growth, self-development and, most importantly, helps me to stay true to myself by providing a ‘mirror that talks back’.

As a coach, I simply need these powerfully supportive influences in my life and I am not at all embarrassed to admit it.

They are worth their weight in Platinum.

Invest in yourself.

If you don’t, who else else will?

 

I sincerely hope that you found this post inspiring and useful

I am an email away if you need me.

Your friend and staunch ally,

To Love and Courage!

Ron

Live, Connect, Love and Prosper’

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2 Comments »

Comment by stephen light
September 9, 2015 @ 4:15 am

Hey Ron

Such simple lessons and yet profound in their impact. I had to think very deeply about the questions on my relationship and partner over time. Made me reflect and notice that I don’t really have a clear picture of retirement.

Another cracking article, thank you Ron

Stephen Light


Comment by Ron
September 11, 2015 @ 9:11 am

Dear Stephen,
Thanks for so faithfully supporting our community and my work.
From one perspective, failing to plan is planning to fail.
Self-directed, self-empowered living is a delicate balancing act between being and doing, striving and surrender, and gratitude and seeking deeper levels of mutual fulfilment.
I encourage you and your Partner to have open, ongoing discussions about your life together. I highly recommend scheduling regular ‘check-in’ discussions. Put them on your calendar and, if appropriate, include your two beautiful daughters.
To Love and Courage! Your Friend and staunch ally, Ron


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