Conscious Dating, Part Two


Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone.

In last week’s post I began a discussion on the topic of ‘conscious dating’.

Today’s post will continue that discussion.

Last week, I pointed out that conscious dating requires us to be fully present with ourselves, surroundings, and, naturally, our date.

I provided some tips for living a more present, connected life.

Today, I will continue that discussion.

I will focus on the powerful perspective of curiosity.

Curiosity adds richness, meaning, and, most important to our discussion here, a much deeper level of connection to our lives and, especially, to our relationships.

When it comes to deepening our connection with another human being, curiosity is one of the most powerful tools in our toolbox of interpersonal skills.

One of the most important things you can do, especially in the early stages of dating, is to become and stay curious!

In our fast paced, goal directed society conversations tend to be shallow.

We tend to focus on our immediate material needs, relatively superficial interests, events at school or work, and gossip.

Rarely does anybody really show a deep, sincere interest in us: our dreams, hopes, and aspirations.

When was the last time a new acquaintance just wanted to find out about you?

The real you: Your deepest interests, passions, favorite activities, views on life, dreams for the future, and so on?


We remember these conversations precisely because they are so rare.

Dating is a process of mutual discovery.

By demonstrating a sincere interest in your date you are giving him the opportunity to be himself.

The more you can put your date at ease the faster you will discover what he is really about.

To be clear, I am not proposing that you ask your date thousands of probing questions.

A date is not the Spanish Inquisition.

A relaxed perspective of genuine curiosity can help to set a tone of respectful, comfortable mutual interest.

Curiosity is contagious

I would also like to point out that curiosity is contagious: the more interest you show in him, the more interest he will show in you.

I guarantee it!

Getting through the first few awkward dates

The more you can put your date at ease the faster you both will get past that uncomfortable “new date experience” and actually move toward fully being yourselves and enjoying each other.

The more you both discover about each other, the more likely it is that you will form a relationship that is mutually fulfilling and empowering

As I like to say we are always building our ‘relationship house’:  I invite you build yours on the strong foundation of mutual respect and genuine interest in each other.

Become and stay curious; You’ll be glad that you did!

I sincerely hope that you found this post inspiring and useful.

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See you next week.

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