“Compassionate Biography”

WELCOME!

Today’s post just may give you “a new lease on life”.

If regrets are in any way holding you back from being in that loving, committed, mutually empowering relationship of your dreams then this post is for YOU!

I’ll just cut to the chase.

The compassionate Buddha put it succinctly: ‘All that you are is the result of what you have thought’.

Put another way, you are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.

Empowered self-directed living requires a certain amount of “flexibility” in how we view events, the actions of others, and perhaps most importantly, what is possible for us in the future.

We are always in choice regarding how we “perceive” events and circumstances.

Always.

Any time that you find yourself believing that you are not in choice, you have left the realm of empowered living and have unconsciously embraced the role of the “victim”.

When it comes to how we view past relationships that did not work out as expected or hoped for, I have found that in most cases, people tend to see their past relationship “failures” mostly from the perspective of “poor choices”.

Here’s the rub:

When we choose to see a ‘failed marriage or relationship’ mostly from the perspective of our ‘poor choices’ then an almost endless barrage of negative self-judgments will tend to follow.

Negative self-judgments generally lead to low self-esteem, an overly pessimistic view of the future, and patterns of self-defeating thought and behavior that only serve to strengthen our negative self-judgments.

The net effect of all of this is that we can become closed off to what’s possible for us.

People can actually become trapped in such self-defeating cycles that eventually lead to immobilizing despair.

How people can end up immobilized by despair

When we view any aspect of our past through the lens of poor choices, two very significant and disempowering things happen:

  • We begin to develop regrets, that if not dealt with, always lead to resentment, which eventually leads to bitterness, the love killer.
  • We begin to doubt our capacity to make good choices, which leads to fear and indecision.More importantly from a relationship standpoint, it leads us to not fully trust ourselves.

    Potential partners can sense our lack of self-trust and when we choose to live from this place, we actually repel love.

    Naturally, this leads to lots of missed relationship opportunities.

    Really.

Please take a moment to allow what I just shared to really penetrate your consciousness.

A better way forward

How we choose to view anything, especially our own biographies, is open to interpretation and therefore a matter of choice and not ‘predetermined’.

So, if you are coming out of a less than fulfilling romantic relationship, I encourage you to ‘rewrite’ your relationship ‘history’ in a way that allows you to learn and move forward with faith, hope, and optimism.

I call the work of re-framing your life from a totally positive and empowering perspective “compassionate biography”.

History is not etched in stone, but a matter of perspective.

You can choose to embrace the perspective, that for the most part, your past decisions were all perfectly aligned with the person you were, the situation you faced, and the best options you could find at that moment in time.

Feeling a little push back from your mind?

I invite you to just let that go … Just surrender the self-doubt and fear to your heart.

How?

A little “heart opening, mind clearing” exercise might help.
Think of this as a little over due “inner spring cleaning”.

You will need about 20 minutes of quiet time by yourself, a pen, and a pad of paper.

I recommend that you read the following instructions once all the way through before doing the guided meditation.

Inner Light of Hope Guided Meditation:

I invite you to take a few minutes and just relax.

  • Sit or lie down with your back, neck and head in a straight line.
  • Take a few deep breaths in and out through your nose.
    • With each inhalation imagine that you are drawing in healing, regenerating life forces.
    • With each exhalation imagine that you are sending blessings out to the universe.
  • Now put your hands over your heart cave or heart chakra
    (To do this just put your elbows lightly against your sides and bring your hands together in the center of your chest just above your sternum).
  • Now imagine that your entire body is surrounded by a golden, healing light.
  • In this safe, healing inner space allow yourself to get in touch with the disappointment you have around any relationships that didn’t work out as expected or hoped for.
  • Allow your self to grieve for these losses.
  • I invite YOU to send any and all self-doubt, negative self-judgments and fear of failing again in relationships into your heart cave to be transformed into “the light of love”.
  • Breathe, Relax and let go
  • Invite love and healing into your heart and life
  • Ask the God, the Universal Spirit, Life Force, The Wisdom of Sophia – whatever meets your world-view – to help you to see your life from the perspective of full out self-acceptance and self-love.
  • Set the intention to be at peace with your past and to be open to what’s possible.
  • Now gently open your eyes.
  • I invite you to:

1. Journal about whatever you experienced.  This will help you to “lock in” your inspirations and learning.

2. Repeat this guided meditation once daily, for the next seven days, preferably in the morning before you start your day.

    • If you really want to begin to transform your conscious, I recommend doing this guided meditation once in the morning before you start your day and once in the evening before going off to dream land.

3. Use this guided meditation whenever you are feeling burdened with self-doubt, regrets, and fear about how things will work out in the future.

A quote from my soon to be completed book: The Road to Freedom

“The realm of the mind is probability.
The realm of the heart is possibility.
Surrender your mind to your heart and realize true empowerment through inspiration”

One more thing:
We live in the present: make the most of it!

Summary:
History is not etched in stone, but a matter of perspective.

You can choose to embrace the perspective, that for the most part, your past decisions were all perfectly aligned with the person you were, the situation you faced, and the best options you could find at that moment in time.

Live, Connect, Love and Prosper

See YOU next week!

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1 Comment »

Comment by stephen light
May 7, 2013 @ 7:57 am

Dear Ron

This will live with me.

History is not etched in stone, but a matter of perspective.

You can choose to embrace the perspective, that for the most part, your past decisions were all perfectly aligned with the person you were, the situation you faced, and the best options you could find at that moment in time.

I did the best I could with what I knew how at that moment in time. I can let it go.

Thank you thank you thank you

Love & Courage
Stephen


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