Awaken the Dreamer in YOU


Happy New Year!!!

For many, the New Year marks yet another opportunity to make a ‘fresh start’.

In America, we commonly refer to the commitments that we make to ourselves to put renewed effort into improving some area of our life as a New Year’s Resolution.

If you are one of the many successful, career-oriented singles that have made the resolution to put renewed effort into your romantic pursuits, this post is for you!

Let’s just cut to the chase.

Zig Ziglar put it succinctly:

“If you can dream it, you can achieve it.”

Time to awaken the dreamer in YOU!

Before YOU simply dismiss Zig Ziglar’s famous saying as ‘new-age, positive thinking malarkey’, I ask you to consider the following:

Everything that you have accomplished to date began with an inspiration or dream that motivated you to stay the course until your goal was realized.

Think about it.

I invite you to take a minute to reflect on the areas of your life where you have attained a good degree of success.  Writing your thoughts down can be very uplifting.

Please take a moment to be with and celebrate your past successes.

Now pick one area of your life where your level of achieved success required you to overcome some pretty significant obstacles.

Once again, I invite you to take a moment to be with and celebrate your accomplishment.

What made your success possible?

Three keys to making real progress toward your relationship goals:

  • Develop a clear vision
  • Fully embrace your vision
  • Enlist the support of the universe

Developing a clear vision

What you envision in your mind’s eye as possible for you becomes your reality.

I encourage you to put some serious effort into clearly defining what you really want and deserve in your next romantic partner.

Becoming clear on what you want and why you want it is the first step to attaining any goal.

Relationship goals are no different.

When it comes to attracting a committed partner who truly loves you for who you are I recommend beginning with the following steps:

  • Make an exhaustive list of everything you want in a committed partner.
  • Narrow the list to ten must have qualities and live with this list for one week.
  • Further narrow your list to five to seven must have qualities.

I strongly encourage folks to include a least three character-qualities (for example:  being generous, kind, or patient are all character qualities) in this final list.

Fully embrace your vision

The first step to fully embracing your vision is to try on the idea that what you really want is truly possible.

I put it this way because when it comes to romantic love, we all have some nagging self-doubts that tell us that what we really want in a committed relationship is out of our reach.

I know that this was a major obstacle that I had to over come on my rather circuitous path to the love of my life.

So when your ‘Doubting Thomas’ pipes up with yea but …. Thank him or her for their concern, then follow these steps:

  • let go of any negative self-judgments
  • re-affirm that you deserve and can attract a committed partner who truly loves your for who you are.

The idea is to avoid wasting time and effort fighting with your mind so that you can keep your attention focused on your carefully crafted, positive vision.

Put another way:

By giving attention to thoughts and feelings that support your vision while letting go of ones that cast doubts on your prospects, your are freeing your mind of these energy draining, negative influences.

Some activities that support the process of fully embracing your vision:

  • Journaling about your vision of life with a committed partner that truly loves you for who you are.
  • Creating a vision board depicting your life with a committed partner who loves you for who you are.

Why bother with these activities?

The simple answer: these activities provide the insight, inspiration, and motivation to help you stay the course.

They will help you to build a foundation that supports your efforts.

Enlist the support of the universe

The first step in enlisting the support of the universe is to cultivate a sincere attitude of gratitude.

This is because discontentment simply breeds more discontentment.

If left unchecked, discontentment leads to deep-seated regret that, in turn, always leads to bitterness – the love killer.

What we appreciate, appreciates.

By combining your renewed, carefully crafted vision of your life with a committed partner who truly loves you for who you are with a sincere attitude of gratitude you are literally magnetizing yourself to love.

The second step to enlisting the support of the universe is to declare your intentions to attract a committed partner who loves you for who you are and that you will not settle for anything less.

Practically speaking, telling your closest friends, family members, and colleagues that you have renewed your efforts to attract a committed partner who is just right for you, will help:

  • Deepen your commitment to your vision
  • Provide your closest friends, family members, and colleagues the opportunity to consciously support your efforts

One caution bears mentioning here:

If a particular friend, family member, or colleague is a real pessimist when it comes to establishing and maintaining positive romantic relationships, avoid sharing your dreams with them … they’ll only ‘rain on your parade’.

I hope that this post helped to awaken the dreamer in you.

I encourage you to invest in your future.

Luck is when opportunity meets preparedness.

Want to be ‘lucky in love’, do the work!

See YOU next week!

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  • Create a sense of clarity about the relationship you really want to have.
  • Find out the essential building blocks for having the relationship of your dreams.
  • Discover the number one thing stopping you from having the relationship you want and deserve.
  • Identify the most powerful actions that will move you toward the relationship of your dreams.
  • Complete our session with the excitement of knowing EXACTLY what to do next to attract a committed partner who truly loves you for who you are!

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1 Comment »

Comment by stephen light
January 7, 2013 @ 9:11 am

Hi Ron

Thank you for another great post. I have a question.

How do we let go of negative self-judgements if they come so easily and are present before I recognise them. Its the letting go and switching that becomes challenging. Any advice will do.

Love & Courage
Stephen Light

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