WELCOME! Coaches often talk about ‘inner shifts’ as important vehicles for ‘living into’ or ‘manifesting’ more fulfilling futures. In plain English, an ‘inner shift’ is basically a change in how we view ourselves, situations, events, etc that leads to new, previously unseen options and solutions to life’s challenges. Almost any experience can prompt such changes [...]

WELCOME! The other day a friend and I were exploring his feelings about how he ended his relationship with his ex-girlfriend.  Our discussion revealed that he was not at all clear about what to do about what we determined to be feelings of ‘guilt’ about how hard things were toward the end of their live-in [...]

WELCOME! The compassionate Buddha put it succinctly: ‘All that you are is the result of what you have thought’. Put another way, you are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you. Empowered self-directed living requires a certain amount of ‘flexibility’ in how we view events, the [...]

WELCOME! Today’s post is a video that really spoke to me.  Please take the time to watch it.  You’ll be thankful you did. Click the link to watch Mercy Now by Mary Gauthier I hope that ‘Mercy Now’ inspired you to see life, your family and friends, your neighbors, and yourself in a more compassionate light. [...]

WELCOME! As many of you know, I can be a very introspective person. This tendency generally serves me but can also become a breeding ground for negative self-judgments. One way I process my thoughts, inspirations, and ‘find my path’ in life is through daily walks in the beautiful apple orchards near or home. This morning [...]

WELCOME! The other day I was engaged in a conversation with a very bright, spiritually awake and thoughtful woman about the process of what many commonly refer to as ‘visioning’. As a seasoned Love and relationship coach, I assist singles and couples in creating a living vision of their desired relationship that is in alignment [...]

WELCOME!  One day when I was talking with a close female friend about my feelings regarding my ex-wife’s “insensitive behavior”, the universe blessed me with an insight that finally got me to end my “pity party” and get on with my life. Curious about what she shared to get me out of my funk? She [...]

Sometimes in life, we realize that we just take ourselves too seriously. When it comes to intimate relationships, our struggles, if seen from the outside, might make a good script for a screenplay or better yet, a comedy. Hey, I could have won some Oscars for a good number of my performances on the ‘stage [...]

Ah Spring!  Flowers blooming, birds singing, bees buzzing, interest in love re-surfacing: What a delightful time of year! Spring generally brings with it thoughts of renewal, rebirth, and an energy of curiosity about what’s next. How do you plan to ‘spring into action’ on your quest for the Love of your life? If true love [...]

This week many folks will celebrate St. Patrick’s Day.  There will be green drinks, corned beef & cabbage, and lots’ of merrymaking to be had by all. Many singles will be on the look out for that ‘special someone’.  Some of my single friends have even told me that they hope to be ‘lucky in [...]

WELCOME! The path to true, lasting love, can be arduous and circuitous. It is often difficult to differentiate the forest from the trees. Sometimes it can be difficult to even correctly discern what path you’re actually on! The path that unfolds ahead of us appears new and different, but is it really? Often times we [...]

WELCOME! I woke up this AM with the Beatles playing in my head.  They wrote so many songs about love. From my perspective, when it comes to love, it is truly in giving that we receive. How about you? What inspires you to love? How can all of us become more inspired to love? Click [...]

WELCOME! In reflecting on my own rather circuitous path to the Love of my life, I realized that when it came to dating, I lived with a lot of fear. I took the whole relationship thing so seriously. You see, I really wanted that special someone in my life- that friend of all friends- to [...]

WELCOME! I’ll begin today’s post with a powerful love attracting/energizing affirmation that I recommend you literally take to ‘heart’. Love Attracting Affirmation: “I am a child of God. I was created in Love, I am worthy of Love, I open my heart to Love, I invite the ONE that I am intended to be with [...]

WELCOME! The inspiration for today’s post came from an email ad from ‘Vista Print” with the subject heading: ‘Are You Ready for Valentine’s Day’? The email then proceeded to promote all kinds of cards, banners, stationary, stamps, etc to help business owners and those folks who send Valentine’s Day cards to friends, colleagues, lovers, etc. [...]

WELCOME! This is the third post in a series of articles on the Law of Attraction.  If you are a new subscriber or did not get the opportunity to read last the two previous posts, I recommend that you do so when your time and energy allows. However, I understand just how busy everyone is [...]

WELCOME! This is the second post in a series of articles on the Law of Attraction.  If you are a new subscriber or did not get the opportunity to read last week’s post, I recommend that you do so when your time and energy allows. A brief summary of the previous post follows. I have [...]

WELCOME! Volumes have been written about the Law of Attraction. Many of you are familiar with the film “The Secret”, a film that from my world-view, delineates a particular, albeit incomplete and misleading view of the Law of Attraction. “The Secret” has been widely praised and promoted by many popular and influential entertainers and teachers, [...]

WELCOME! In the previous post I shared two powerful tools to support your new year relationship resolutions: Creating a vision board Journaling about your life with your “Mr. Right” by your side I also shared that combining regular journaling with a thoughtfully created vision board helps to unify your consciousness behind your intentions and sends [...]

WELCOME! HAPPY NEW YEAR! In previous post I shared my belief that clear intentions based on our core values form the foundation of self-directed living. I also promised to share some “powerful tools” to support your New Year relationship resolutions. Two powerful tools that will support YOUR New Year relationship resolutions: Creating a vision board [...]

WELCOME! This is the last week of December 2011! Where does the time go? For many folks this is a time for setting positive intentions for the up coming year.  In America, we commonly refer to these intentions as New Year resolutions. The problem – most of us just don’t follow through with the New [...]

WELCOME! Today’s post is about seeking the inspiration that is always present in YOUR Soul. As the winter holiday approaches I felt moved to share a personal practice that has brought me endless inspiration and peace, and has helped me to become a more compassionate, loving human being. For over 30 years I have regularly used [...]

WELCOME! I would like to start today’s post by acknowledging YOU: You are lovely. You offer a lot to a committed, loving relationship. You absolutely deserve to be cherished and adored.  True, Lasting Love – words that ring true, that resonate with our deepest desires for emotional connection, intimacy, and our innate need to share [...]

WELCOME! Today is the first Tuesday in December. The holiday shopping season has been officially kicked off with yet another “get more for less” round of “Black Friday” and weekend sales. Folks are feeling the pressure to get their holiday cards, gifts, decorations, meals, grog, and other “holiday trappings” all together. A sense of “unspecific [...]

WELCOME!  A couple weeks ago at a networking event I met a wonderful, deeply in-love couple that shared a very inspiring story of true love. Even though I was given permission to share their story and encouraged to use their names, I have changed their names to protect their identities and privacy. As always, this [...]

WELCOME! This is the week of Thanksgiving here in America. For my part, I try to live each and every day of my life from the inspiring and energizing perspective of gratitude. When I think of about the quality of my life I am thankful for: The precious gift of life and consciousness My deeply [...]

WELCOME! On Halloween my wife and I spent the day serving the Waldorf school where she works as a co-teacher in a kindergarten class.  We performed a skit for 14 different groups of parents and children as they made their way around the beautiful campus to see various skits, a puppet play, and little performances [...]

WELCOME! My wife and I live on a little apple farm in the Parajo Valley, south east of Santa Cruz.  Harvest is over and the farmer who owns and works the land is preparing for the cooler temperatures and wet weather that autumn brings.  The persimmon trees that grace the land we are privileged to [...]

WELCOME! Last week’s post focused on the idea that: YOU are always building YOUR “relationship house”. I shared that one key to building and maintaining mutually fulfilling relationships that will stand the test of time is to understand that whenever you are interacting with another human being you are: Either connecting with them, and moving [...]

Post Three, You Are ALWAYS Building YOUR Relationship House WELCOME! This is the third post in a series of articles intended to help you set clear intentions regarding your relationships. I have been a “student” of relationships and human “connection” ever since my early days in college and have always tried to apply what I [...]

Post Two, Are Your Relationship Regrets Preventing You From Attracting True Love? WELCOME! This is the second in a series of articles that are intended to help you begin the process of releasing the negative, pent up, emotional energy that is causing you to attract and settle for, incompatible men. My own path to my [...]

Post One, The Power of Forgiveness WELCOME! This is the first in a series of articles that are intended to help you begin the process of releasing the negative, pent up, emotional energy that is preventing you from attracting your Soul Mate. As I shared in a previous post, it took me 18 months – [...]

Post Five, Letting Go of the Past and Renewing YOUR Vision WELCOME! This is the fifth in a series of five articles that are intended to help get you “unstuck” and more confidently moving forward on your path to true, lasting love. In the previous article I shared that cultivating a sincere attitude of gratitude [...]

Post Four, Practice Gratitude WELCOME! This is the fourth in a series of five articles that will help get you “unstuck” and on the path to true, lasting love. My own life has been filled with opportunity and disappointment.  This was especially true when it came to romantic relationships. The time period between my divorce [...]

Post Three, Self-care and Attracting Love WELCOME This is the third in a series of five articles that will help get you “unstuck” and on the path to true, lasting love. If you have been following this discussion thread, you probably are anticipating that I will share a little bit about my own struggle to [...]

Post Two, Magnetizing Yourself for Love WELCOME! This is the second in a series of five articles that will help get you “unstuck” and on the path to true, lasting love. In reflecting about my own romantic pursuits, I realized that a good deal of my disappointment resulted from often unfounded, but, nonetheless persistent and [...]

Post One, Developing A Clear Vision WELCOME! This is the first in a series of five articles that will help get you “unstuck” and on the path to true, lasting love. My own journey to my Soul Mate was, well, rather circuitous.  I seemed to date all the wrong people for all the wrong reasons.  [...]

The following discussion is intended for successful, career oriented women who have decide to make attracting “True Love” a priority. . It will focuses on a commonly held “relationship myth” that, if left unchecked, will prevent you from being true to yourself and keep you from attracting the truly awesome life partner that you want and deserve. I got to marry my best friend and so can you!

BUILDING EMOTIONAL CONNECTION SERIES, PART TWO Emotional Connection,  A Better Way Forward If you are reading this article I  am assuming that you are interested in building deeper, more connected, mutually fulfilling relationships. Time allowing, if you haven’t read the first article in this series please get to that before proceeding, as it contains terms, a basic model  [...]

If you are reading this article, I am assuming that you are involved in the dating scene.
You may be looking for some new ideas to keep you inspired and moving in the right direction.
You may also be feeling a little overwhelmed, frustrated, and wondering how to make the best of your next dating opportunity.

When I talk about values I am not referring to moral and ethical standards of behavior or conduct, although a person can value acting from their own particular moral and/or ethical framework. I am also not including standards of behavior you got from your parents, attending church, etc. So to be clear we are not talking about standards for “right” and “wrong” behavior. Rather, values are the idiosyncratic beliefs, ideas, likes and dislikes etc that make us who we are. When we make choices that are consistent with our true values, we experience fulfillment and peace. Conversely, when we make decisions that do not fully honor our true values, the result is disappointment, regret, and, even, negative self judgements.

If you are reading this article, I am assuming that you are looking for some inspiring ideas and tips for improving your interpersonal communication with potential partners.

If you are reading this article, I am assuming that you are involved in the dating scene. Perhaps you are looking for some way to penetrate that “dating fog” of false assumptions that commonly assaults our sense of self confidence and, if left unchecked, can steal your motivation and become the basis of what I call the “Dating Blues”.

This article will focus on one specific aspect self expression, most commonly referred to as self disclosure. Self disclosure is an important skill that, if properly utilized, can have a profound positive influence in establishing and maintaining stable, healthy, mutually fulfilling relationships.

If you are reading this article I am assuming that you are curious about this whole emotional connection thing. Perhaps you are re-entering the dating scene or want to breathe new life into an existing relationship. Whatever your motivations, when it comes to interpersonal relationships, we humans can generally use all of the fresh ideas we can get.

If you’re reading this article, I’m assuming that you are aware that you have some “relationship baggage” and are interested overcoming these roadblocks so that you can successfully move down the road to the love of your life …

The first thing I would like to point out is that there truly are many fish in the sea. So to help get you get “unstuck” I’d like you to try on the idea that there are lots of men that you can connect with, be yourself around, and fall in love with. Relax, be open, and let go of “Miss Desperate.”